I started my period when I was 10 and consider myself to be very period positive. I’ve never felt ashamed about my period and always fought off ignorant period shaming comments at school, even when I was standing alone.
I’ve always been baffled why periods are so taboo. Not only are they completely natural, but half of the population deal with them in some way.
Yet we’ve been conditioned to be secretive and hide any signs that we’re possibly bleeding. And don’t get me started on women across the world who are considered ‘dirty’ and sent into isolation during their period. It’s disgusting.
So, if you’ve internalised period shaming and want to shake it off, here are a few things you can do.
Blame your period for things
I always avoided using my period as a ‘get out of bitchiness free’ card because I thought it made me superior somehow. Like I wasn’t one of those girls.
Well, that’s bollocks.
Your period can have a huge affect on your mood and it’s not something to be ashamed of. Your body goes through so much every month, so embrace it and give yourself a pass every now and then.
Stop hiding tampons up your sleeve
When I was at school, I made a point of holding my menstrual products in my hand when walking to the toilets. It was empowering knowing that I wasn’t hiding something so natural and I strongly recommend you try it too.
You don’t need to run around throwing tampons and pads at people, but it slowly removes the stigma of seeing menstrual products in the wild.
Talk about your period casually
We sometimes lie about our period to make other people feel more comfortable – especially men. Instead, try talking about your period casually. For example, you could openly ask if anyone has any menstrual products when you need one rather than whispering to all the women.
It doesn’t need to be a big deal and you don’t need to shout from the rooftops, but by talking about it more openly it removes the stigma for you and those around you.
Try a menstrual cup
I’ve used various period products over the years, favouring Tampax Pearl Tampons for a very long time. I made the switch to menstrual cups a few years ago because tampons are expensive and bad for the Earth and I love it.
However, many women have told me that they don’t want to use them because it involves being intimate with their vagina which makes me sad because it’s your vagina and you shouldn’t be afraid of poking and prodding it.
As for the messy part, I usually put mine in and empty it in my daily shower to avoid the faff.
Have sex on your period
It’s a myth that you can’t have sex while you’re mensturating. You totally can.
You can put a towel down and just get on with it, try some mess-free shower sex or just don’t do anything penatrative.
If your sexual partner has a problem with it, talk about it. Periods have a bad reputation and it might take some time for your partner to feel comfortable about it. But never apologise for your body and don’t let them make you feel bad about yourself.
Are you period positive? If so, what are some of your tips?